But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage). It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.Dating Tip 6: Give Love Time to Grow Sometimes the idea of love is better than love itself. If you’re infatuated, need constant reassurance, and have trouble thinking about anything else, these are signs you’re not really in love. If you’re like most people, finding mature love takes more than one try, but it’s definitely worth it.It’s fun for now, but in time you’ll probably feel disappointed. The more you get to know each other, the stronger your feelings.
“Girls need to feel good about themselves before they start to date,” says Charles Wibbelsman, MD, chief of adolescent medicine at Kaiser Permanente in San Francisco.
If you meet someone who you want to do life with or that God is laying on your heart to pursue romantically, then you will still be fine.
Either way, the quality of your life is what you make it.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.